My little take on relationships…

Sooooo I’m so so so so tired of hearing females AND males always complaining about the opposite sex… It gets old.

Women lie.

N*ggas ain’t sh*t.

He/She a hoe.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

BLAH BLAH BLAH! ITS SO OLD!

From experience this is what I’ve gathered about pursuing healthy relationships.

1. The way you act, dress, and the way you come off towards people dictate the type of men/women you will get.So if you feel like you always get hoes/dogs RE-EVALUATE YOURSELF. Think about what you could be doing to attract those types of of people.
2. The places that you find your “potential relationship partners” cangenerally predict the kind of relationship you’ll have.For example, think about all the people who have met at the club; now think about how they ended. Now I’m sure not all of them have turned out bad, and you might have met some good people there but generally you haven’t. So what is the conclusion? Wifing at the club is a no-no.
3. By now we are all pretty experienced with relationships, so pay attention to signs early on when developing and building relationships. If he/she reminds you of past ex’s you probably want to let that go. Trust your gut, if you having serious trust issues in the beginning it won’t get better. Think about and tell me an instance where it got better…? Also if you notice sketchy behavior in the beginning, let it go. Like if you don’t feel they’re being genuine from the jump, why would you continue?
4. Last and most important, you won’t find someone if you haven’t found yourself. How do you expect to find some good for you, when you don’t even know whats good for you? If you don’t know your flaws and strength and you’re not handling them, then why do you expect someone else to put up with them. You need to know what you like and don’t like and work on your flaws and focus on your strengths so you can stop selling yourself short and you can find someone right for you, who will also appreciate you, imperfections and all.

These are the 3 things I try to keep in mind and things are going pretty well for me. Yes I’m single but I can honestly say since having this little “epiphany” I have met a GREAT selection of men. Not all of them were right for me just because they were good men but because I knew that I’ve at least made some friends and avoid a lot of heartbreaks and hurt feelings.

I hope somebody has gotten something out of this… any questions or concerns comment on here or tweet me @ThePrettyPsycho :)

N*gga Is the New P*ssy.

You ever noticed lately how males are tending to take on the roles usually associated with females?? Males are starting to get catty and petty, getting OD emotional, taking things too personal, and just not acting how "men" should...
A man does not call me out my name because I don't give him my #.
A man does not sit there and argue with females, then after the female is done arguing, continues to keep talking about what ever they were arguing about.
A man does not put a females # out and have people prank her because she made him mad.
A man does not spread rumors or gossip -____-.
And the last 2, but def not the least;;

1. A man does not hate on females.
2. A man does not hit on females.

Men Hating On Females:

One day this dude got mad at me... I don't even remember why, and he said "I look better than yo a** anyways." First off what does that mean and how does it pertain to the situation at hand? And #WhereInTheRule does it say that you can even compare the looks of a man to that of a female??? Even if he was very attractive (which he is not) and I was ugly (which I am not) you do not say "I look better than you" to a female, if you are a male. That's gay! GAY GAY! ( Dave Chappell voice). Or did I miss that part of life where men are allowed to compare there appearances to that of a woman? To me it's like comparing meats and fruits. Yes they're both foods but they are two totally dif things. Gay!

Men Hitting On Females:
By now we all know about Rat Stacks being slapped by some hoodboogers that allegedly roll wit Fab *http://tinyurl.com/32gqmkb*... Ok, yes Kat Stacks is a groupie whore and a disgrace to the human race but c'mon now. Why would you get some MEN to slap a FEMALE??? I'm not going to even front though; I laughed when I saw it. He smacked her hella good matter of fact. But when I laughed I felt a lil guilty because men should not put there hands on women... What they should've done was get some females to smack her... Then I could've thoroughly enjoyed the video.


Now not ALL men act this way, and not even majority of men act this way and #shoutout to the MEN who are reading this and don't act like they have a vagina! It's just that lately I've just been noticing a lot of guys doing things that females normally do and it blows me... and I often say "Nigga is the new pussy." People always ask me what I mean, and this is what I mean.


Comments, Questions, or Concerns?? tweet me:: @dayeCHEETAH

Summerrrr =)

First off let me just start off with YAY I'M ON SUMMER BREAK! haha.
My plans for break? Well I wanted to work but somethings going on with transfers at with my job;; hope it gets worked out but aye. Right now I'm in no particular rush to start working anyways because I am enjoying being a bum at the moment! and I can always go pick up shifts at my dad's diner when I want. Anywho more plans for the summer;; I want to go to the beach of course... Maybe go to Atlanta and definitely visit my fam and old buddies around the way in D.C. Wanted to go to summer school, but Durham Tech ghetto system turned me off.

let me tell you how ghetto they are. So i called up there a bunch of times, why these ghetto heifers were literally picking up the fun hanging up... I could here them carrying on conversations with themselves and here the phone physically hang up. So I go all the way to Durham for a quick question and yall already know I asked them about that hanging up issue. Them ghetto hood rats was like  "we having problems with the lines" But I had just sat there and watch them let the phone ring while they were eating some funky ass Dominos. #THANKSBUTNOTHANKS I will keep my tail at university, no community college what so ever.


OHHHH. Also some LOSER tried to hack my facebook, email, and skype actually they got my skype and I made a new one but luckily I was online when all of it was going down so I stopped the facebook and email. But I'm pretty sure I know who it was and I just want to let him know I can't wait for him to go to the military and get the eff away from me, damn pyscho.
Like really, who does that? Do you not have anything better to do other than trying to go through my stuff??? How old are we???


Speaking of how old are we;; I find myself asking that a lot these days. And I've come to the realization that some people will never change. They will always stay in that high school state of mind and will never evolve which is extremely sad. It's okay to stay true to yourself, but it's not okay that you haven't had any personal growth since the 9th grade. But whatever, I wish I could say I don't care, but when people's childish mannerisms affect my life how can I not care? I'll continue to keep growing and evolving and I hope at some point those high school minded people will let me be and stop tailing me, but long as u stay behind me I'll live.


But hmm... What else....?


welp I got nothing at the moment so yea IT'S SUMMER BREAK!!!!... ttyl. 

Liberated

Well I'm sitting here chilling on this lovely day... Feeling quite liberated for several reasons!

1. Got the hair just out, all naturale
2. Just finished this crazy paper that's been stressing me out for over a week!
3. I'm very glad about my decision to let some of these internet websites GO.

Reason #3  is what I'm about to go into detail about. Well recently, due some childish behavior of a "grown man" my number has been circulating a number of websites (ustream, twitter, myspace, black planet, to name a few) who gets on blackplanet and myspace still??? #wheretheydodatat??? But yea, at first I was getting the normal pranks on my phone but I guess because it wasn't breaking me these LOW LIFE, NO LIVES took it as far as looking up all my information posting it and decided to say they are going to rape me, kill me and went as far as bringing my siblings in it. You can call me what you want, but bringing in my brothers and my sister, that some disturbing shit and I immediately changed my number as soon as they mentioned my siblings.

Also everyone knows I say what I want and say how I feel, and that's just who I am. I feel like if people are going to come at me and "hate" me (and I say hate me not hate on me in a literal sense and you will see why shortly) I will say something about it. Thing is I'm a goofy and fun person so I can talk trash way better than the next, so people (MAINLY GUYS) want to talk junk to me and they get they're "pride" hurt and don't know how to handle being slayed by a female. So they do things like the sorry individual who decided to post my # all over the net.

• Now I say "hate me" instead of "hate on me" cuz these same people sent me anonymous messages saying all these things about how I am evil and they wish harm on me and what not to spare the details. (I know it was the same 3-4 people because I can recognize voices, and the way they typed and what they'd say)
• My Response: "I DON'T START ANYTHING BUT I WILL FINISH IT. IF YOU CAN'T STAND THE HEAT, DON'T COME LIGHTING MATCHES IN MY KITCHEN CAUSE YOU WILL GET BURNED."

Following all this petty drama started by a "grown man" I had already thought about removing myself from certain websites. And it was official later when I got on twitter and I saw a trending topic #ItAintRapeIf...  Now this BLEW me. First of all rape is rape, whether you are a nun or a hooker, married or single, man or woman, adult or child, rape is rape  no means no! After that I was done with social websites (except facebook, and even now I don't talk to no one up there).
I've come to realize several things over this semester. (not just because of the internet)

1. Age is truly nothing but a #. What "grown man" post #s on the internet and plays on peoples phone cause he got embarrassed on the internet. He's 23/24 and I'm only 19, and we don't even know each other.
2. Some people forget that the purpose of twitter, facebook, ustream, myspace, blackplanet, and whatever else is out there is for FUN. Some where along the lines people started investing too much of their lives into this, with the online dating, and internet thugging and for a split second I was right there with y'all losers, stooping to y'all level. But luckily I got a head on my shoulders so I SNAPPED BACK TO REALITY QUICK FAST AND IN A HURRY.
3. There are truly some disturbing and sick individuals in this world #ItAintRapeIf >>enough said.
4. Can't trust people as far as you can throw them.
5. A lot of people in this world are lame and I don't want to associate with them.
6. Gender roles are changing, men are becoming more petty and catty and women are becoming more promiscuous and emotionless.
7. I enjoy myself.  I could care less about what others things and for reasons 1-6, it's why nobody ever sees or hears from me around campus or back home. I am/can/WILL do fine, I don't need friends as long as I got my family, and they not going anywhere.

But like I said I feel liberated. I'm not mad or hurt at all. I've had epiphanies and realizations, and I have no regrets. A lot of people aren't going to hear from me anymore, and I hope y'all don't take tou personal, but honestly it is personal... Welp, aye life moves on.

*SIDE NOTE* if y'all didn't know the "grown man" who gave my number out was Adonis Jackson. And from there Shukur Carrion had something to do with spamming it because I busted his chops, he came at me and he got slayed. #KANYESHRUG.
.... oh and twitter I'll be back soon, just need a break ....

#2>>Haiti

There's something that has rreally been bothering and urking the hell out of me for the past week, and that's the way "media" is portraying Haiti. It reminds me of the Hurricane Katrina situation... You know, where there was an image of a white couple with a backpacks AND grocery bags and their caption was "residents wading through the water" and then there was a photo of a African-American kid and another of two women African-American with just grocery bags and they were described as "looters in New Orleans." ((http://tinyurl.com/y9axbkr)). Well samething. Our dearest beloved media has Haitians all over the news saying how they looting and showing them with their weapons and what not. How about the people of Haiti are trying to survive? How about the UN says, and I quote, it's the worst disaster that they've ever had to deal with. Honestly, what if the U.S. had this happen to them, I think because we are such a greedy and self-center nation we'd behave in a despicable manner. How many people do you know would honestly risk their lives to go find people in a collapsed building? Now I'm not saying there aren't people who wouldn't. But collectively Haitians are coming together to help each other, they have not broken out into riots and chaos.
Now time for me to shead some real light. I think the fact that the media is showing Haitians this way is evident that racism and discrimination is truly alive in these united states... Well my deductive reasoning skills have determined that the reason why the media is portraying Haiti in this way is that the MONEY that the citizens of the U.S. are donating to Haiti is not coming back. In other words, donating to Haiti is not an investment. It's money going out of country that we more than likely won't get back... and not only will it not come back it's going to *dun dun dun dunnnn* BLACK PEOPLE.  I bet it if had been China the U.S. would raise taxes to help them. (not literally).
To me it this just give ppl like Molly Shephard ((twitter.com/mollymshephard)) the OK to say things like:

 > http://tinyurl.com/ydhfxdj  >> Oh look at all the trending topics. I wake up to Haiti and MLK / Martin Luther King. Seriously I have a dream you'll go away!
> http://tinyurl.com/ybopa8v >>I think what happened in Haiti is a sign from God how certain people, whether it's skin color or economic status, are just bad.

....ugh... such a pretty girl with one of the most ugliest insides ever. Well on this note, I'm done.

Firstest Blog Everrrr

So this is blog numero uno.. Currently I am sitting on the couch of my home boys watching him and his friend (who is rather attractive ;)) playing Rainbow 6 on the oh so lovely PS3. Sounds like fun huh??
Welllll I'm ready to go back to the dorm, that I do kinda miss, and I can't carry my tv and I don't wanna carry my suitcase... (sidenote: i stayed here most of break becuz of a 'miscommunication' wit my boss. I told her i wasnt gettin an apt and she said i told her that but she put me on the schedule anyways during break... Where did she think i was staying, idk but i like my job at Aeropostale and despite the lil holidays drama im glad i worked).
Back to blogging... I dont have much to say at the moment. Im typing this from my new phone the Imagio cuz im bored... Its a verizon smart phone if u wondering, and im not afraid to admit it may be to advance for me lol.
I plan on making my next blog about some issues i want to address from the devestating earthquake in Haiti to the dumb things ppl i am ashamed to say are in my generation do. But since its my first blog ill keep it positive.
Class starts Tuesday and im excited... Last semester i made all As and a funky C =(. This semester im shootin for all As. Got my last spanish, Race & Ethics, Research Methods, Gen. Anthropology, and African American Studies. Sounds interesting and fun to me... Oh for ppl who dont kno me i go to UNCGreensboro and im studying Sociology and Anthropology.. Dunno wat i want to do but i love wat i study so thats a great start.

Well this all for now... BUT we shall meet again =).